Abusers
Are you concerned about the way you are behaving towards a partner, ex-partner, or towards a family member?
Abuse in a relationship is when you try to control someone, hurt them or force them to do things they don’t want to. This can be done in many different ways and isn’t always obvious.
Abusive behaviour can be:
- Physical or sexual abuse
- Violent or threatening behaviour
- Controlling or coercive behaviour
- Economic or financial abuse
- Psychological, emotional or other abuse
It does not matter is this behaviour is a single event or a course of conduct
- Have you ever been violent to your partner?
- Do you ever use force in an argument – including using your physical presence to intimidate?
- Do you monitor your partner's activities and/or whereabouts?
- Do you control your partners and families finances and decision making?
- Do you have strong opinions about what your partner wears?
- Are you jealous? Do you constantly need to know where your partner is?
- Do you have strong opinions about who your partner socialises with?
- Are you making it difficult for your partner to meet or have a relationship with their friends or family?
- Do you call them names and put them down?
- Do you blame your partner for your problems or feelings?
- Have you ever threatened to hurt yourself if they say they want to leave the relationship?
- Do you phone and text them excessively?
- Do you monitor their calls and emails?
- Do you force them to do anything of a sexual nature they don’t want to?
If you are worried you are using any of these behaviours in your current or past relationship then please call Relate on 024 7622 5863 or email info@relatecoventry.org [mailto:info@relatecoventry.org] to discuss. The Choose 2 Change programme can help you by encouraging positive and healthy relationships for you and your family.
Support for Abusers - Choose 2 Change
Services Available for Abusers in Coventry
Safe To Talk Helpline
If you are a perpetrator of domestic abuse please call the Safe To Talk Helpline: 0800 111 4998
8.30am - 5.30pm Monday - Friday
10am - 1pm Saturday – Sunday
Relate – Choose 2 Change
Relate Coventry provide interventions for men or women who are using abusive behaviours in their current or past, intimate relationships.
Relate seek to engage residents of Coventry over 18yrs of age in a structured group programme designed to provide those who abuse support to have respectful and positive intimate relationships.
The aim of the Choose to Change (C2C) Domestic Abuse Perpetrator Programme is to help those perpetrating abuse to address their behaviours, and encourage positive behaviour and attitudinal change, with the view to reducing the risk of harm to the victim, and any children of the family.
An important part of the programme is our integrated support for partners and ex-partners. This is offered to individuals whose partner is referred to the programme to address their abusive behaviours. The integrated partner support service is delivered to the victim/survivor by our partnership colleagues at Coventry Haven and Panahghar and ensures that we provide a full complement of victim/survivor support, with safety interventions, and a good understanding of the programme modules.
Relate programme is a Respect accredited programme so you can be assured of a high-quality standard. The service is regularly monitored and audited to ensure best working practice and ongoing development are in place. You can find out more information on Respect website: www.respect.uk.net [https://protect-eu.mimecast.com/s/F5hvC66nmC7yzNLipnFUK?domain=respect.uk.net]
If you would like to self-refer or find out more about the programme, please email us at info@relatecoventry.org [mailto:info@relatecoventry.org] or call us on 024 7622 5863 for more information.
If you are a professional and wish to refer somebody to the programme, please complete a C2C referral form:
Click here for to visit the Form Referrals Page [https://protect-eu.mimecast.com/s/z_9yC76onC2ZlgGtWusZC?domain=relatecoventry.org]
Click to download the Choose2Change Leaflet [https://protect-eu.mimecast.com/s/3cIVC8qposWY1GNS2YyF1?domain=relatecoventry.org]
Relate also offer specialist training, workshops, and workbooks for professionals. Please make enquiries at info@relatecoventry.org [mailto:info@relatecoventry.org]
National Services for Perpetrators
Respect
If you recognise that you’ve been abusive to your partner and you want to stop call the Respect [http://www.respectphoneline.org.uk/phoneline.php.html] phoneline on 0808 802 4040.